4.17.2014

More Touring


Today was a beautiful day in Xian. The first day the sun was shining! Made it perfect for some touring as a family. Yesterday Steve, Kianna, Karilee & Derek went with our travel group to the Terracotta Warriors Museum. I stayed back with Shao Bo and we had a peaceful day at the hotel. He enjoyed the one on one and it was good for him to be in a non stimulating environment. Ruth kept me company, which was really nice! 


Sometimes both toddlers want mommy at the same time!

We took  the subway and walked through the Muslim District. It's like a huge open air flea market. It was so very interesting! We loved it. A wonderful cultural experience. 


Our most favorite stop was at "Helen's House of Chinese Calligraphy" She had beautiful painted plaques and hanging scrolls with scripture verses in Chinese and English. She had beautiful worship music playing in her shop and her whole self just oozed with the sweetness of Jesus!! It was such a ray of sunshine among the many sad faces you pass!   


What a sweet sweet spirit she had! She wanted to hold Shao Bo and he immediately went to her and sat all peaceful in her lap which was proof of her sweet spirit, because he wont let just any stranger hold him.  She passed out candy to the children and shared her testimony with us! She told the children they must from now on call her Auntie , because she will always be their auntie in China! We will never forget sweet Helen! 


How thrilled we were to eat here for lunch!! Oh it was so yummy if we would have had tails they would have been wagging  like a happy lamb!! 



Celebrating Derek's 7th birthday a bit early. 


How we love this sweet little boy! He's such a goofy copy-cat and cracks us all up!
He is so easy to love, and so worth the paper work pain...the long wait...the tears and the faith stretching.
I love love having "twin" toddlers. It gets crazy at times, but it makes life exciting....double trouble, but double blessings and joy!!


4.15.2014

Tuesday ~ Day # 6

Good Afternoon!

I am presently enjoying some quiet time, and I must say it is very refreshing!

We were so blessed with our best night of sleep yet since coming to China! We have no paper work that needs done today so we have a free day to do as we want. We decided against going out and doing some sight seeing as it became very apparent today that our newest treasure is feeling a lot of grief and sadness today. This is very much to be expected, and is a needful/ healthy thing for him to go through as we walk with him on his journey to healing. He has just been torn away from everything he has ever known. The  people that have ever cared for him, all his playmates, familiar routines, food, smells sounds etc. Even though he cant logically process this, He is feeling a deep sadness

He has been very sad and angry today. Lots of tantrums, spitting and acting out. When someone hurts, they tend to want to hurt others. We feel only compassion for what he is doing & how he is acting, because we understand WHY he is doing it.


There was a specific episode today where he was screaming, retreating into a corner and clearly showing he did not want me. I gave him some space and sat about 2 ft from him and talked softly and smiled. As tears rolled in a little stream down his face I saw so vividly at that moment a very hurting boy. And just as vividly I felt the amazing responsibility/ blessing of being the hands of Jesus. Tears came to my eyes too, as I felt his hurt, and imagined how confusing life must be right now...



God never said it would be easy. Our flesh tends to shy away from things that are messy. Things that take us out of our comfort zone. But He does promise that He will flow through us if we are willing vessels. And at that moment I felt the supernatural love of Jesus flow through me for my scared little boy. I kept holding out my hands to him so he would know he was welcome in my embrace whenever he felt ready. And after awhile he came... sweaty. tear stained and exhausted. But ready to receive.

Beautiful. The love of Jesus always works. We are honored to be part of Javonns healing! He is such an amazing creation!

So between Steve & I, we have been spending a lot of the day giving one on one time to Javonn. Aunt Ruth has been able to occupy the other children in the other bedroom. (Bless her!)
He fell asleep in daddy's arms and had a long restful nap. Naps always help! I'm so blessed to be a team mate with Steve. he is always so calm and steadfast! Love him!!

Daddy loves his new son! Sometimes he just wants to Squeeze him! Because he's so squeezable!

Just as Shao Bo Is learning about us, we are also learning about him, and some triggers too avoid. Like a little trip to the super market for a few items = a meltdown, because it is so overly stimulating to see all those bright colors and hundreds of options to grab and cling to that he finds out he isn't allowed to. So we wont even take him there knowing he isn't ready for it.
Food...he loves snacks! And we learned that snacks were given freely at his orphanage and used as a solution for anything.  We have plenty of snacks for him, and offer them often. But we learned today to only give him a snack for each hand, a sin 2 pieces, and only hand him piece by piece as he is ready for it. Giving him the whole bag causes melt downs because he stuffs his mouth then flings and throws them all over the room etc. He has a lot of habits to unlearn that he's been accustomed to using.


We are almost half way through our journey here! Tomorrow is touring the Terracota warriors. Steve has been looking forward to that. Derek is excited about his 7th birthday in four days. I brought candles along and am hoping to buy a cake from a local bakery.

We are all having fun learning about the culture and trying new foods. We all eat at the breakfast buffet then only buy one other meal per day.

Some foods we LOVE, others not so much. Like the chicken feet at the buffet arnt too hard to pass over!



We sure enjoyed our day at the Great Wall! I still intend to post pictures of some of the places we toured when/ if I get time :)


Our sweet guide that was with us in Beijing. The children really fell in love with her! She said we were the biggest family she ever saw!

Ok, dear people. Enough for tonight. Time to go join the family.

Till next time.....

4.14.2014

It's official!!

What a special day today was for our family! And for a special little boy who has never known anything other than the life of an orphan.

Today, Little Wei Shao Bo officially became:

Javonn Tyler ShaoBo Glick

At the civil affairs office in Xian, China, we sealed our finger prints on top of our signatures and promised to love and raise ShaoBo, 

We promised to become your forever parents and to never abandon you....

It is truly an honor to receive you into our hearts, Javonn! You will add so much JOY to our family!

This photo has a special little story that warmed my heart. Before we left the civil office I asked for a photo with Shao Bo and his orphange director. He was a very kind man to Shao Bo and I wanted to be sure to have a photo in his memory book of this special man who helped facilitate his adoption.
Remember, when we first arrived yesterday, he cried to leave the director and nanny, but today when I handed him to the director Steve & I both watched ShaoBo transform before our eyes. Moments before he had been playing and laughing but as soon as he was in the arms of the director he just emotionally zoned out. You could see it on his face and he just made himself limp and would not smile for the picture. The director tried to tease/ kiss him but he was listless. As soon as I reached for him he jumped in my arms, smiled huge, and just relaxed!! It was so obvious he wanted no chance of going back . He WANTED us!!
It is such a gift that he is receiving our love so quickly!

We keep telling you over and over:

"You are LOVED!!!

YOU ARE chosen!!


You are perfect just the way you are, because you ARE fearfully and Wonderfully created by a Father who loves you so much and has a special destiny for your life!
 


He is soaking in all our love. He just thrives on it. He freely comes to us to be reassured that we are still here, and that we still love him!

We will spend the rest of our life assuring you of our love, and most of all of your Heavenly Father's unending love for you.

We cant wait to come home and introduce our little man to all his extended family and friends. He will def. crack you up! He's quite hilarious at times!

Speaking of coming home, I'm already kind of home sick! I try not to dwell on it, because i really do want to enjoy this time but I cant WAIT to be home again!

I wont lie, it has been HARD at times having the whole family along, K & D do great, it's really just Kianna that has made some challenging times. She has felt very threatened and is not happy at all about sharing mommy! My heart feels so soft toward her, I understand the adjustment is hard for her.... I'm sure things will level out and they will become best friends!

This afternoon we had an appointment at the police station to get his picture taken for his chinese passport. It will be finished on thursday. Tomorrow we have a free day, so I will probably be able to write more and post some more pictures.
I must go join the family in bed, now that everyone is actually sleeping I dare not waste the chance to get some shut eye! Planning to take a sleep aid in hopes of a longer night. I am still waking every morning around 1-3 am. GRR!! Last night was a hard night, it was Shao Bo
s first night. While he didnt cry and cry, which was wonderful. He was so wound up he couldnt relax. Both Steve & I were so tired we could hardly stay awake... Shao Bo had about 6 things he latched on to as treasures, tissue packets, bubble bottles, his photo album from orphanage. He was CONSTANTLY moving these 6 items around in his hand. Stacking them up. It would tumble. Stack back up. Cling to everything. Try to hold them all at once. Impossible. so rotate..rotate..always sorting..holding ...clinging. He would wimper if I tried to lay his head down and strongly resist. We knew he had probably never had any one item he could claim as his own and right now he needed that security. Seriously, it didnt matter what it was. He would find a toothbrush, and cling to it for dear life and cry if we tried ot take it away. He was so hyper exploring everything. but everything he discovered he wanted to hoard. For awhile he had a handfull of Q-tips that he would not relinquish! Dear boy. As the hours drug by, I finally just held him and sang n prayed softly as I paced the floor. (wish there was a rocker in here!)
Finaly his little head relaxed onto my shoulder. A bit longer and stuff started dropping from his hands as he lost grip. I laid him down but he slept restlessly the whole night. I think I was up every hour. Once he rolled off the bed and slept on the floor for awhile.
Tonight we gave him a sleep aid and are hoping for a better night for him, and all of us!  He went to sleep beautifully tonight and even allowed Karilee to sleep beside him.

Goodnight!!

4.13.2014

Gotcha Day!!!


Sunday Morning:We woke up early at our hotel in Beijing, all of us feeling the excitement that today was THE day! It really felt rather unreal! We packed up our room, ate breakfast at the buffet , then met our group & guide in the lobby at 7:30. We rode a bus to a small local airport. Ran into a glitch with Steve's passport that required additional time of waiting as they fixed the problem. We were so glad we had come early. Going through customs, most of us endured a thorough pat down. Awkward! 

Once on the plane we had a 2 hr flight to Xian.  We were met by our new guide, Sherrie. Boarded another bus and during the 1 hr drive to our hotel she went over the instructions for the rest of the day,and the rest of the wk.
Our hotel is right smack in the middle of  a huge city. We are on the 23rd floor and have a great view of the city below. Although, so far there has been a constant haze, which dosent allow you to see very far. We have 2 hotel rooms. They really are amazing and have wonderful bathrooms.(important to me!) Each room has 2 twin beds, which in my opinion seem even smaller than our twin beds. We also have an extra cot in the one room for Javonn.
We only had a little more than half an hour to unload our luggage before we needed to rush back into the bus to head to the Civil Affairs building to meet our children. Oh my! It really was stressful and at the moment it felt anything but calm and serene! We were all hot n sweaty, tired, nervous and I was esp worried that the children, or mainly Kianna would create chaos in an already chaotic room of various families all meeting their child at once! I knew she was tired, clingy and fragile. We Prayed hard and trusted again that God's peace would prevail!
Nerves running high we enter the building and go to the 20th floor. As soon as we walked in the door, there he was!! All the kids had already arrived! 

Our first glimpse....our guide in the front pulling files, the orphanage director and nanny holding Shao Bo. As soon as the guide told them we were his parents the nanny came to us. Poor Shao Bo's eyes widened in terror, and the closer they came the more he started crying and holding his hand our waving No! NO!
It was heart breaking!!
For a few seconds my mind just froze. All I could think was, "What am I supposed to do!! There is NO Way I could force myself to pull him  away from the only people he has ever known!!"
 

Then suddenly I remembered the stash of options we brought along for exactly a time as this! I knelt down on the floor and opened the back pack. I pulled out cheerios and Steve got the stickers. That did it! He reached for them right away and as he did I gently pulled him onto my lap. The nanny was jabbering away and repeatedly kept saying "Shao Bo Ma-Ma, Bah- Bah (chinese for daddy. pronounced like pappa, except w a B) !!!" 



And he never cried again for his nanny. He seemed to know he could trust us! The children gathered around, and he happily accepted every snack that was offered to him. He preferred the food above any toy!

We had some legal papers to sign that gave us temporary custody of him for the next 24 hrs. His nanny & director quietly slipped out and we were on our own! 

Our family of 6! As soon as the Chinese tell Shao Bo to pose he pops out the 2 fingers. All the Chinese kids do that!
My "twin" toddlers!!

We are SO amazed at our new treasure! He is so smart and such a live wire! He is small but mighty! Steve thinks he will be the liveliest of our crew! He's been giggling, running and bouncing all over the place. He seems to be adapting so well, better than I could ever have hoped for. He loves both Steve & I and cant seem to get enough of us holding him.

He is fully potty trained. The orphanage took him every hour!!! SO it seems like he is forever telling us he needs to go!

He jabbers away in Chinese but easily repeats ANY word in english we ask him to. Seriously, he just amazed us how smart he is, and how fast he seems to understand almost anything we say!

His first night wasnt easy... I'll tell you more about that later. For now, Steve & I need ot run off to do more paper work.

Tired but blessed!!

4.11.2014

Update!


Greetings from my hotel room in Beijing. I should be sound asleep....but because of that terrible jet lag I'm wide awake at the moment so after swallowing a few sleep aid pills I figured I may as well write until they take effect Besides, Kianna is having the same problem, the dear thing fell asleep around 1:30 in the afternoon while we were out touring. At first I assumed she was just having her normal afternoon nap but after a few hours it became apparent it was not just a nap, it was her night time! We could not wake her up! She was like a floppy rag doll who could be passed from person to person, jostled in the vehicles and nothing would wake her! We were like "Oh no~" we knew the problem this would likely cause when our night time came......

Our hopes to skip out on jet lag by taking melatonin regularly on the way over, as suggested by Daniel Haley, most certainly did not work, because today was pretty tough. WE had hoped to sleep in till 8:30, but instead were all wide awake by 5:30. The breakfast buffet opens at 6 so we got dressed/ showered and were out their by 7. We all oohed and aah-ed over the wide variety of options. It was a good mix of chinese and american food. Definitely enough that we can get satisfied on. It's all set up attractively and the cooks wear the great big tall white hats. They don't have silver ware on the tables unless you request some. Its all chopsticks. Napkins is another thing they don't really use. Not sure if they never get messy eating or if they just wipe on themselves. But this mommy who is very aware of making as little laundry as possible and hoping each child can stay in the same outfit for at least the entire day sure misses napkins!!

After breakfast we roamed around and explored some of what the hotel has to offer. It has some fancy expensive looking clothing, toy and jewelry shops. The main thing that caught our attention was a Starbucks! It was set up just like the American ones. Its amazing how soothing it is to see something familiar when all the sights, sennces and language around you are foreign. We didn't have any money on us at the moment so we are still waiting to indulge on a cup of coffee.

We were to meet our guide and the rest of our group in the lobby at ten. But before that I felt like I could crash in bed and go to sleep. It was like that all day for Steve & I. It came in waves. Energy for a couple hours then all of a sudden we would be hit with such tiredness it really took effort to be "with it." We commented various times how grateful/wise it is not to have gotcha day on that  first day when our body is so disoriented. I told Steve it sure takes faith today to believe that I wont feel hazy and  groggy this entire trip! You mean theres a possibility we could ever get a good night of sleep and feel rested! Sure hope so!

There were only 2 other families in the lobby. Another one is arriving late tonight, and the another family skipped the Beijing part and went straight to their childs province. We will meet them later. The 2 families we met are both from MD and we are all adopting boys, and all from the same province! The one couple has their 12 yr old daughter along. The other couple has 5 older children, all at home. We enjoyed getting thawed out and got more relaxed with each other as the day progressed because we road around in a bus and toured as a group. On the agenda for today (friday) was visiting the great Wall of China. We had an hours drive there, which was nice because we got to see alot more of the city and surrounding area. We saw a mix of highly advanced looking architecture in the huge buildings and sky rise apartments along with a lot of poor looking areas. It was an amazing drive and really kind of hard to take it all in! Such a very different culture! It felt so good to get a glimpse of our sons culture. It occurred to me that even though this IS his heritage he will likely grow up feeling as much a foreigner to it as we do. Hopefully we can take enough of pictures for him to enjoy hearing about it as he grows up.

The Great Wall is truly an AMAZING sight!! So worth going to!! It's just incredible to try to take it all in. You've seen the photos many times in books etc, but suddenly you want to pinch yourself because its hard to believe you are standing there on it in real life! Pictures just dont do justice ! The mountains are so huge and jagged. Derek & Karilee thoroughly enjoyed climbing the wall. They of course would be way ahead of us, then look back and say "come on Mom & Dad! Whats taking so long!" Yeah right! We were out of breath and taking many rest stops, plus carrying Kianna and a back pack. In my jet lag state I completly forgot to bring along the Ergo baby carrier to the wall even though I had it packed in our suitcase for specifically a time as this! We also left our sun glasses at the hotel because it looked so hazy and overcast when we left we didn't think we would need them, but it was nice and fairly clear on the mountain and we regretted not bringing them. We climbed to the first big tower, then decided that was enough for our family. The steps were steep and you really needed to watch your footing because of uneven and mis shaped steps. We enjoyed browsing the little shops that were set up at the bottom. D & K each picked out a souvenir and we enjoyed watching nationals do hand paintings with their thumbs and fingers creating amazing paintings of the wall.  It was on the way back down that Kianna fell asleep, maybe around 2 pm and she slept the rest of the afternoon, evening and when we got back to our hotel at 6:30 pm I laid her in bed and she kept right on sleeping until 11 pm! Then she was ready to be wide awake, was hungry and wanted to play. All the rest of us were zombies! I felt sorry for her. I kept the lights real dim, let her eat a granola bar, dry cheerios and water. Then we gave her some melationin to help her relax and she went back to sleep again. She was restless the rest of the night but def allowed us ot get more sleep. We were all awake by 4 am and took melatonin to make us go back to sleep, which we did for a few more hours. 

Anyway, back to the afternoon yesterday, after we were done at the Great wall, our bus load went to a Tea House, the most famous one here in Beijing. Tea is a huge thing here, like coffee is in America. We all sat around a table while a girl told us about their different famous teas like Jasmine, OOlong, fruit tea etc. and what they use them for. Certain teas are good for digestion, some for calming etc. They have a special way they make it...and served us samples of each in tiny cups that held probably 2-3 tablespoons! It was very interesting! Carmen, I thought of you, because it was just like you had described it. 

Oh, another thing, we had been warned the children's blong hair would be an attraction. Oh my goodness! That is no understatement! Going up the great wall it almost got ridiculous the people that stopped and wanted a picture with her. Touching her and rubbing her cheeks. Also many posing with Karilee. Someone said blond hair and blue eyes to them means good luck so they like to touch/ take pictures. At the restraunts the waitress will just scoop Kianna up and attract a flock around them and want to pass her around. I'm surprised how well she has tolerated it. I asked Karilee what it feels like to be a celebrity!:)

After the tea house tour we were more tired than ever! Everyone in our group was looking pretty bushed! All we wanted was to crash in bed, but oh no, we were headed to another big chinese restaurant for a typical chinese meal where we sit at a large round table that has a lazy susan in the middle that they load with food and you turn it around and dish out whatever you want. Kianna is still sleeping in my arms and Derek laid his head on the table as soon as we sat down and was completely out for the entire meal. It was such a relief to get back to the hotel. My head was hurting and I crashed in bed and went to sleep shortly after.

Saturday morning: We just returned from the breakfast buffet which we all enjoyed very much. Steve is off to exchange some money and get our first coffee. we need to meet in the lobby in half an hour to leave with the group for the days sight seeing. We feel much better and oriented today. Kianna is crabby though. We are going to The forbidden City, and I forget the name of the other place. I think it will be a full day.

Sunday morning we leave the hotel at 7 am to go to the airport. Our flight leaves at ten, I believe. Tomorrow is THE day!!! We are ready for it!

Love & Blessings from China! Esther

PS. Reuben, Derek was so tickled ot find one of those little laser lights from a peddlar off the street that came running up to our bus with his wares. It's not quite as fancy as yours but he's tickled pink!

4.09.2014

En-route to China

 I've been waiting for a chance to come on here and give an update. Whew! The last week has been BUSY and hectic!! But we survived it and  guess what?!! We are currently up in the air on our first flight heading to China!! We left our little city airport in Watertown about 20 minutes ago. So nice having an airport half an hour from home!
We woke up this morning feeling all excited thta this was THE day!!! Everyone had big smiles on their faces as we did final packing, and cleaned the house. We're gonna miss our house and cozy beds. I'm already looking forward to coming home :) 
Grandma Martin made lunch for us and then we had a few stops to make in town. We were so glad Grandpa Glick's could come out to the airport and see us off. They brought yummy Pappa Johns Pizza for us to eat. I think Kianna had a bit too much pop...she is bouncing off the walls... I mean seat, here beside me!
It was priceless watching Karilee & Derek's faces as the plane took off.  This is their first flights that they are old enough to remember. Steve & I are SO incredibly grateful to God for providing for the whole family to come along. The last huge life changing event our family went through (Jadrians death) it included so much seperation as a family, and we are so thrilled that we can enter into this special life event as a family, all together. And even though Jadrian is not with us in person, we feel his spirit with us. His life played such a signifigant role in this journey coming to pass. We even tell each other we feel closer to Jadrian being up high in these fluffy clouds!!
Grateful for a beautiful day to fly! We have a 1 1/2 hr flight to Chicago. There we will meet up with Auntie Ruth who is so graciously joining us on this trip to help with child care. We only have 45 minutes in Chicago until we board American Airlines 777 to Bejiing, China! That will be a 13 hr flight. We leave at 7:15 pm and fly all night and arrive in Bejiing at 9:45 pm and get ready to start our second night in a row. There is a 12 hr time change! Our bodies will be going through quite the adjustments!
After we go throw customs in Bejiing we will be met by our guide who will be holding our agency name sign. I'm sure he will be a great sight to weary bodies in a strange land. He will escort us to our hotel where we will hopefully get a GOOD night of sleep :)  
Friday & Saturday will be spent touring in Bejiing. This time is intentionaly planned to give our bodies a little time to acclimate to the new time zone and hopefully get over jet lag a little before we go to meet our treasure. On Sunday morning we fly to Shaanxi, Javonn's province, for Gotcha day!

3.31.2014

Of packing and praise..

The children's count down chart on the wall boldly declares that it's 9 more days till we step on that plane!! We are down to single digit numbers! This week loosk very full so no doubt the time to depart will come before we know it!




Derek finished his math book today and we will finish the remaining remnants of school this week. Yay for ending the school term early! One of the perks of home schooling was being able to stick to school steadily and not need to have weeks off for snow days! We have a gym day, 2 dentist appointments and a weekend of babysitting cousins. I also intend to get the last few items from our shopping list and work at packing....


Two specific books I cant wait to read many times over to Javonn. Beautiful childrens books on adoption. Thank-You Ellen & Carmen!

Packing for 6 people feels like a big job to me, but I'm sure it will all come together just fine. I'm determined to not stress about it. If we forget something, more than likely we can buy it there! Our in country flights only allow 44 pounds per checked in item so I'm planning to have that be our weight limit even though our flights to China allow 50 pounds.

The lovely cake from Aunt Carmen~~Javonn has no idea how many uncles and aunties are waiting to love on him!


Sunday morning both Steve & I came down with a nasty head cold that got progressively worse.... He was able to go to work today and I managed  to limp around with getting Monday duties done with very frequent visits to the couch, and ever reaching for the tissue box. Even though my eyes are swollen and it looks like I've been crying all day, my heart feels quite the opposite. I feel SO AWARE of God's presence today! And that, is SO SO precious!  Despite being sick at such an inconvenient time, I am not afraid, because I know God is with us and everything is in control. And most likely the sickness, is just another attack the devil is trying to throw at us.

I PRAISE and BLESS you , Lord, for you are so faithful to your promise!! You surround us today with your peace. There is no fear because you are with us!
I feel SO AWARE of the fact that our family is just about to step in to a new phase that will change our lives in so many ways. So aware that it will be a mixture of HARD and beautiful. But more than anything, right now I *FEEL* the presence of Jesus so clearly, that even sickness and packing chaos cant take away that peace.  He reminds us, this trip is ALL about him.
He planned it.
He's orchestrating every detail.
All we do is take His hand and follow.

There is NOTHING so sweet, so peaceful, so securing, as following the will of our Shepherd.